• Dr. Zoidberg@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I cancelled plans once with the excuse that I had to take care of my grandmother.

    I wiped her urn off with an anti bacterial wipe, and played videogames.

  • PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S [he/him]@lemmy.sdf.org
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    If any of my relatives ever read this, you have my full permission to do whatever stupid shit with my ashes you want, the stupider the better. Or if you want to dunk on or generally make a joke out of my passing, that’s encouraged too. It would be a nice send-off.

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    When my FIL what was a veterinarian was cremated, his remains were in a nice wooden box on his old antique desk. My SIL always referred to it as, “Doc in a box.”

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    I have a close friend who’s dad very suddenly passed away within the past 2 months and was cremated. I shared this with them on chat. They laughed. I’m still alive…for now.

    • 3FingersOfMilk@lemm.eeOP
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      1 year ago

      Ive got some other dark memes I’d like to share, not sure where the community draws the line lol

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        I don’t think Lemmy is ban happy like reddit. I’ve got into it w/ a lot of people here and nothing has been deleted nor have I gotten a warning/suspension.

        I’m sure there is a line (threats of personal hart/calls to violence) but those are areas 98% of the world never goes.

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    At the funeral home for my FiL talking about urns. We ask about the little ones they have. While doing their little pitch, the funeral director says that “they hold a spoonful of the- the-“ and one of my FiL’s children finishes “spoon full of dad”.

    And now I can’t think about cremation without thinking about “spoon full of dad”.

  • Smokeydope@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    What is this trend of people taking selfies striking the peace sign behind dead relatives remains? Like dude its your dead relative show a little decency not everything has to be social media clout

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      Before reading your comment I’d seen the image, laughed, and showed it to my adult son who also snickered. I then told him if he and his brothers don’t do something similar when I’m gone, I’ll be terribly disappointed.

      Everyone has different comfort levels with death. I work in hospice so I see death regularly, and am about as comfortable as I can be with the idea. I hope my son’s can be as comfortable too. We’re very loving, but share similar sense of humor.

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      I mean, it’s really just a container filled with bone dust with a decent chance of it being mixed with other people’s bone dust.

      The only significance it has is what you give it.

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        Symbolically it represents the ‘spirit’ of the person who donated the bone dust, there’s a reason most people don’t use their grandmothers urn as a spitoon even though you totally could. It seems like these kinds of people who take these post could give a little more respect and significance to the last remains of a loved one by not making a cringe selfie with them.

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          Yes, that right there is the importance that You put on a container of bone dust of dubious origin. No one else is required to share your opinion.

          You have no idea what their relationship was like, and you have no right to judge how another person handles the death of someone close to them.

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              Having certain beliefs with regards to the sanctity of remains should not be conflated with basic human decency.

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                Better tell Geneva, misusing human remains is still a war crime and outside of war it’s still illegal in most of the world.

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      Where I’m from, that’s a rude gesture the same as flipping the bird. I was confused what he was trying to convey til this comment clued me in that he’s got the peace sign back to front