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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • A) There is no hive mind. That’s just you perceiving a bunch of people who happen to hold a similar opinion as a monolith, and that’s an illusion. You have no data whatsoever to support the idea that they’re thinking in concert or even have the same reasons for their reactions.

    1. Don’t take it so personally. They don’t know you, and they’re not attacking you by downvoting you. They’re simply expressing “I want to see less of this.”

    d) Instead of having a kneejerk reaction when you get this kind of response and immediately being defensive, step back and use it as a reflective moment. Maybe you misjudged the room, misinterpreted the potential impact of what you posted, or are simply on a different track from those who downvoted. What can you learn from it? Do you need to change your own approach, or do you need to reevaluate your audience?




  • I had never though about it before, but the objection seems to be that the name focuses on the genetic essentialist mode of defining gender, which is at best outdated and at worst deliberately exclusionary to women who don’t actually have two X chromosomes. (ie, trans women, who were born with male sexual characteristics)

    But I don’t think the name necessarily excludes, only provides a discussion focus. As in, it could be seen as an admonishment to not be restricted by outmoded definitions. So long as the community itself doesn’t hold a TERF mindset, I don’t see it as a problem. The justification of the name definitely needs to be changed to better reflect modernity, though.


  • It’s rare that I manage to catch them when they’re ripe and the birds haven’t devoured them all. But the wet spring we’ve had so far has just made my hedge go nuts, and all the volunteers along the fence are covered in them too.

    In terms of resourcefulness, I wish I could claim that. But this literally just involves throwing a bunch of cherries in a big jar with a buttload of sugar and letting it sit in the sun for a month or two, throwing in some cloves and cinnamon halfway through. It’s about as low effort as it gets.