Thanks for the clarification! Your stewardship along with everyone collaborating in work and donations makes for a wonderful project. Really demonstrates the power of people working together to provide spaces outside of the control of corporate interests that are destroying other platforms.
Memmy on iOS has filtering under settings. Haven’t tried it yet but presumably typing in “hexbear” would not only filter out comments/posts from the instance, but also comments/posts about it from other places. Never have to deal with any of the drama again. Also filter out anything else you don’t want to see.