Something about your plans was very appealing to you. What about them gave you a sense of identity? Why those plans specifically? Try to figure that out: be very specific, write it down even, and discuss it with people. Once you figure out the driving force behind your plans, use that to guide you.
"With cigarettes, my wife and I, we made a deal. We only smoke after sex. I’ve got the same pack now since 1975. What bothers me is my wife. She’s up to three packs a day!” -Rodney Dangerfield