because we grow up on it. it’s a comfort food.
like mcdonalds and all that other super process crap.
because we grow up on it. it’s a comfort food.
like mcdonalds and all that other super process crap.
why?
i can run like 15 but i fucking hate every second of it. it’s so BORING.
so you’re a normal person then?
keep trying little smurf.
no, you can google it
it’s not mandatory to have a job or a car or a house.
but the vast majority of us want those things and a life without them is pretty shitty.
Yes. my major complaint in life is that most of my dates want to date a man who is a better version of themselves, but don’t want to do the work to be that person themselves. They just seem to think they can absorb qualities via dating a better person or something, it’s bizarre.
basically most of my relationships ended because she refused to do the work to improve her life, and wanted me to do it for the both of us.
100%
Plus a lot of very attractive people who get lots of attention have zero clue what it’s like to be an average person who gets little to none. And they all think they ‘are just average’. Or that other people should just ‘make more of an effort’. Wealth has a lot to do with it too. Ask a welathy person for dating advice and they will just tell you go out and drop five figures out the latest fashionable designer outfits… which isn’t viable for the person of an average wealth who is only spending like a grand or two a year on clothing.
Things are privileges because you don’t know you have them. And pretty people are clueless about how they are treated and assume everyone else gets their level of interest.
Interesting to whom?
A lot of us have interests and interesting lives, but unless those interests carrying social currency in your data demographic, they aren’t going to make you attractive. e.g. I don’t like travel very much, and it’s the #1 thing women in my area are interested in, so it makes me very undesirable. They could care less about my interests in literature and art, because it isn’t anything they can use to boast about to their girlfriends.
Yeah, if you’re an atheist in the rural south, you’re not gonna have a good time.
This is good advice. The issue with modern dating is people treat other people like amazon products… they want a return/full refund over the stupidest most inconsequential shit and have ‘requirements’ that are often ridiculously rigid and superfluous. That and they want instant, zero effort gratification. During the early dates… if there is any awkwardness or imperfection… they believe this is intolerable. I’ve had dates make dinner for me and the dinner game out imperfect, but perfectly edible and good, and they harped on it so hard and broke up with me over it.
Not to mention the double standards. Sooo many people want someone who is better than them and meets standards that they don’t meet.
That’s dating in general for most folks, apps or not. It takes a lot of time and investment and risk.
You have to active look and have fun.
Men who don’t actively look don’t get anything. It’s part of the gender role stuff we’re all subject to. Men are expected to approach and initiate.
Because his ‘theories’ are easy to understand for the layperson, and have become tropes in our narrative culture. Most people’s understanding of freud is simple ‘blame your parents for your problems.’
You do see a lot of Jung as well, but Jung’s work is more abstract and out there and is often used symbolically, whereas Frued’s is used literally and in sitcoms.
Is screaming racist and sexist remarks at strangers self care?
It helps my mood!
We used to call this being an average functional adult.
I enjoy my life.
I refuse to use the BS marketing language of ‘self-care’ which covers everything from brushing my teeth and wiping my butt to a once in a lifetime two month trip to India. Self care is a horrid concept and the only people I know who use it are your typical narcissistic twits who think they are the center of the universe and everything that slightly upsets their egocentric worldviews as ‘toxic’.
most proms are held in a the gym with a shitty dj and shitty catered food. but you’re not gonna see that portrayed in media. parents drop them off, there are no limos.