If I’m in a room with people I know and I plan to leave the room for a long time, I tell them where I’m going. If it’s for a short time I do not.

What (if anything) is an appropriate time scale to leave a room without announcing when/if you’ll be back?

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    Time doesnt really matter. The way to exit is pound your drink, shatter glass on floor, say “later bitches”, chicken strut out the door.

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    Like yeah maybe it kind of depends what environment and what people you’re talking about. When I’m in the waiting room at the bus station I don’t tell anyone anything about where I’m going or how long I’m going to be gone because it’s not their business. And when I’m leaving work to go home at 4:30 or whatever, I say goodbye, and I don’t tell people that I’ll be back tomorrow at 8:30, because it’s kind of obvious unless it’s the weekend and then it’s still kind of obvious. So what are you even talking about? I’m just not following.

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    I tend to never tell people and just be like « cya » because it’s not their business.

  • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    I don’t announce it, and clearly nobody cares.

    Just once somebody told me, confused, “I never seen you leave, but I am seeing you come here for like 5th time. Are you jumping out of the window?” (no), and someone else just noted “Yeah, I’ve noticed that too.”

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    I’d say anything longer than five minutes, with anything less getting at most a “I’ll be right back” with a gesture in the direction you’re going.

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    Always depends on context. If you are out somewhere it is good to let them know so they don’t think you left to go home. If its at somebody elseshouse probably no need to mention, if you are the host then good to let this m know if you had something that will take you away for extended period so they aren’t left wondering. Read the room/situations.

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    No need to announce. No need to be where you don’t want to be.

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    There’s this saying “this isn’t an airport, no need to announce your departure”. So unless there’s an actual need for people to know where I am going and/or why, there’s no point in telling them.

    If the people in the room are your close friends, that’s a different question though.

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    Leave when/how you want and let them figure it all out when you’re gone.

    They don’t pay rent for my basement, they don’t pay me for my time, they deserve nothing. Less then nothing. They should be grateful I am even around to leave in the first place.

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    in social circles with unknown people (a bar for example), it is common curtesey to stand up, raise a glass and shout in full volume “I’m going to the shitter, yo!” before doing exactly that

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    I’d say that it depends on whether you expect them to be there when you return, and/or if your presence is expected in the meantime for whatever reason.

    Just have some situational awareness. Normally it wouldn’t be an issue to leave a room to get a soda from the fridge and then return. However if you’re in the middle of a timed game or while moving heavy furniture, then it would be rather annoying for the rest of the people if you just suddenly disappear without explanation.

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    Do you think they might have expectations? If so, be considerate. If not, skip the announcement part and just go without saying a word.

    Example: There’s a family gathering, and you’re expecting to have lunch within the next 30 minutes. Everyone expects you to be there in the same table. If you need to go put out a fire of some sort, you’ll just say that you need to take care of something urgent and you’ll be back within the same day.

    Let’s say your cousin crashed their car on a tree, and you need to pull it back on the road with a tractor. It’s going to take a few hours to do it, so you’ll just grab a sandwich and some apple juice before you go. Let everyone know that it’s going to take a while.

    If it’s a shorter thing, like getting some more milk from the local supermarket, there’s no need to announce anything. Just go, get some stuff done, and come back in time for lunch.